"Nobody told me I had a clitoris. Nobody told me I was capable of having orgasms. For five years I was given “sex education”. It mostly consisted of periods and condoms. It didn’t talk about consent. It didn’t talk about the actual mechanics of sex, about arousal and lubrication and oscillation. It didn’t tell me a single thing about relationships and it didn’t tell me I had a clitoris. I only know now because of the internet. Nobody entrusted with my care and education has ever told me that the female orgasm exists, or about the parts of my anatomy necessary for it. I didn’t find my clitoris until I was eighteen, after six years of active sexuality. That makes me angry."
-Sex Education, or, What Boys Will Want From You (via basichypn0sis, sexisnottheenemy) (via stfuhypocrisy) (via melody-nelson) (via the-r-evolution)
because only boys like sex right
(via pixiemoon42)
(via eddyizm)Yep. None of my sex education ever really included much of anything about… sex. Especially not from my parents. I snuck around reading things on the internet late at night. So thank you GURL.com for telling me where my clit was when no one else apparently though it was necessary.
I am so sick of seeing this. THIS IS SLUT SHAMING AND VICTIM BLAMING. SHE IS DOING IT TO HERSELF.
I’m pretty sure it’s meant to be a satire.
Satire, what a great way to empower yourself.
I’m sorry, this gets me too worked up, it’s way too triggering, I just don’t find this to be empowering…
I don’t think it’s her blaming herself or satire. The point she’s making is that her rapist and her friends perceived the situation that way because that’s what rape culture teaches people. It makes them believe that it’s the girl’s fault for looking or acting a certain way and that guys can’t help it. But she says she’s not ashamed and will take a stand so it doesn’t seem like she’s blaming herself at all.
(Source: i-suckseed)
Rape-rant.
dear rape apologists/ignorant assholes in general,
rape is not, was not, nor will it ever be funny. it is not possible to “rape” someone at halo, ping-pong, or any other competition. women (and MEN) who are raped were not “asking for it” via their clothing, body language, or any other made-up bullshit you would use to justify a rapists’ actions. similarly, if a female says no to you at any time, this does not mean: yes, keep going; she is a fucking tease; or you should keep going anyway. surprising as it may be, women actually have a right to their own bodies, just as they have the right to vote.
men who rape are not “just being boys” and women who have the inner strength to try to bring their rapists to justice are not crazy, vengeful bitches or sluts who regret having sex. rape is not ingrained in the psyche of men; it is not an instinct they must constantly fight. a man who rapes is searching for a means of dominating a woman. he rapes in search of power, not sexual fulfillment.
a common sentiment expressed by rape apologists begins with “what if.” what if this man is innocent? do you really want to ruin an innocent man’s life by putting him in jail for a crime that isn’t such a big deal anyway? this is wrong. imagine the worst possible physical, emotional, anything-al violation you could possibly dream up. don’t you think it would be increased tenfold by having to constantly repeat your story under scrutiny of people you’re afraid won’t believe you, not to mention the danger of your rapist seeking revenge? why would any woman, man, any person want to bring that upon themselves?
two percent of rape accusations are concluded to be false; as many as one in four women has been raped. it’s impossible to conclude an actual percentage regarding this because of the strong stigma that surrounds the admittance of being raped. as if being a victim of this heinous crime is actually a crime itself. once again, though, women who are raped never do anything to deserve it, no matter how they dress or what career they hold. even prostitutes can be raped—no, it isn’t shoplifting.
our culture of victim-blaming and misogyny-mongering makes it acceptable to make jokes such as the one i cited above (the one-liner “if you rape a prosititute, is it considered shoplifting?”). well-meaning people who employ such callous humor argue that if they don’t make these jokes in front of rape victims, then they aren’t doing any harm. consider this, though: your words don’t escape into a void. rather, they serve to promote the victim-blaming ideas that make it so hard for victims to come forward. plus, it’s impossible to know whether you are in the presence of a rape victim. this idea holds true with gay people or any other minority group you might mock.
in my opinion, the worst part of this whole situation is the hatred directed at people who speak out on behalf of rape victims and other victimized groups. “bitchy feminists” are merely trying to help people, and though i don’t consider myself a bitch, by denouncing the ideas of women and men who support equality, you make this world a worse place for everyone. and in response to ignorant misogynists (who don’t even know what that word means), i say make your own fucking sandwich and get out of antoine dodson’s sister’s bed.sincerely,a person who is tired of your bullshit.i love being a bitchy feminist.
Sex work research needs to focus on money
Research into sex work is too heavily skewed towards examining the childhoods of sex workers, with questions about whether they were sexually abused as children too often being the focus. This ignores the elephant in the room: financial considerations and motivation. Most sex workers who choose to be in the industry are there for the money, not because they need the sex, writes Jo Weldon.
Today is International Sex Worker’s Day
”..wherever you are, demand that people & esp law enforcement treat sex workers with respect & dignity, plus
Look critically at laws meant to protect people from the sex industry’s harms, and demand that policy makers listen to sex workers
Last but not least, stop assuming that all people in sex industry = cis women. Trans women are often ignored, frequently brutalized.”
“Homophobia is often enabled by prostitution laws - gay men are often arrested for soliciting, whether or not they were engaged in sex work”
“There are lots of orgs that raise awareness of trafficking - look closely to see what kind of services they provide for survivors. Many dont
Health and legal services for people in sex trade should be client-focused, and not morality based.”
“Sex industry is only biz in which women make more $ than men. If you want to abolish it, we need real alternatives - NOT sweatshop labor
But even with alternatives, some people will likely still choose the sex industry as the best option available to them.”
- via @audaciaray
"Being penetrated doesn’t mean that I give my body. Being paid for sex doesn’t make me more of an object than when I was working for the minimum wage. What makes me an object is political discourses that silence me, criminalise my sexual partners against my will, refuse me equal rights as a worker and citizen, and refuse to acknowledge my self-determination and the words I use to describe myself."
-Thierry Schaffauser (via nightmarebrunette) (via fuckfuckfuckihatenamingthings)Anarchism and Sex
By: Organise!
Here’s an excerpt but you really should read the whole thing, you can find it here:
http://theanarchistlibrary.org/HTML/Organise___Anarchism_and_sex.html
“Without doubt, many positive things came out of feminism and the women’s movement in general, yet a major downside was the growth in the belief that men in general are inherently exploitative towards women (admittedly based on the very real fact that many men do actually behave in this way for much or at least some of the time), whereas women were always seen as victims of male domination and oppression. For some feminists there followed from this view a giant leap of faith, in which it was alleged that all men were either actual or at least potential sexual abusers of women, while women, on the other hand, were seen as fundamentally saintly and almost asexual beings open to corruption by men; and those women who, by doing things like actively going out, picking up and fucking blokes (or even entering into relationships with ‘the enemy’), were in fact merely living as the dupes of men and their patriarchal system. Subsequently, this ‘asexual exploitee’ view of women holds much in common with the bog standard religious ‘woman as Madonna or whore’ mythology and contains more than a hint of good old ‘Victorian values’. Sadly, even the occasional anarchist still clings to some of this patronising moral baggage.
Under capitalism, everything and everyone is a commodity, we all have our market price. And whether by selling our labour power as workers, or by buying things necessary (and some things not so necessary) as consumers, we all exist as part and parcel of the commodity system, of world capitalism.
Sex then, is no different and is something that is not only marketable but aggressively marketed under capitalism (as we all know, sex sells). However, when sex is bought and sold — whether via pornography, prostitution, etc. — the left, pro-censorship feminists and some anarchists have a tendency to see this trade as somehow worse than many other forms of capitalist exploitation.”
There is so much good shit in here. Especially the parts about strip clubs/sex work and basically just everything.
